• Love is like riding a roller coaster for the first time; We have an idea of ​​what is going to happen, but not what we are going to feel. Just like on a roller coaster, in love there are two things you should never do and two that you do, if you do not want to get hurt.
  • The fear of losing who we love paralyzes our ability to think clearly and we panic, trying to analyze what we did wrong by immediately urging us to compulsively try to bring the relationship back to the point where everything was right.
  • What went wrong and what should you NEVER do?

  • First you must understand that in love, unless you have done something literally bad to the other person, there is nothing that is your fault. Love is for two, and not always the person we love will correspond to us. Now, with that said, I’ll tell you what are the two most common and destructive mistakes we make in our quest to recover someone:
  • 1. Blackmail them

  • “It has to see that I, yes I can make him happy, that no one will treat him like me, that no one will love him more than I”, if this sounds familiar, continue reading. I am going to give you a very simple mathematical formula that has helped me a lot throughout life at the time of love:

  • A = B

  • A ( You ) and B ( your partner ) always have to have the same value in order to subsist as a partner. If A is worth more than B , the equilibrium disappears. This means that if a man stops showing interest in you and you in response you make gifts, prepare a romantic dinner, send texts to him every time and he only moves away, the only thing you are getting is that He wonder why you do not value yourself.
  • Love to be healthy must be back and forth. You must trust yourself and value yourself. If you do not value yourself and show that you are capable of doing everything for the person you love, even if he does not give you the time, all you do is lose courage with every action in the sight of the person you love.
  • If he calls you, you call; If he has one detail, you have another. If you do something good for him and he does not show appreciation or do nothing to be reciprocal, STOP there. If you are interested in B , you will soon realize that until your value is not the same as yours (A) , there will be no relation.
  • 2. Tell you I love you, I love you, I love you

  • Continuing with our original formula, DO NOT exaggerate in telling them how much we love them and how we can not live without it. What you can do is to emphasize the appreciation you have for the things he has done for you or for having a good time together, but always in moderation.
  • If none of this has worked, and you still feel he is moving away, then these are the 2 things you MUST do:
  • 1. Relax

  • I had a friend who always told me: Relax, and my nerves got worse. Like him, my advice is to relax. And I know that saying it is a lot easier than doing it, but from experience I can tell you that, obsessing with a person and investing all our time and energy thinking and analyzing how to recover them, is the worst waste of time.
  • When you relax and let things take their course, everything works out better. When we do not relax, we stifle them, we do not let them think for themselves, causing them to tire of us or make the decision to rush away and sponsored by our insistence.
  • If he already knows what you feel for him and also knows that you are there to make him happy, give him space and time. My grandmother always said: “Whoever goes without being rushed, returns without being called.” Time to time!
  • 2. Never stop loving the only right person

  • The only person who will always be right for you when it comes to love is yourself.We all make this mistake, when we perceive that he can get out of our lives, everything is paralyzed. We stopped worrying about us, sometimes even stopped taking showers, and walked with eyes swollen from crying.
  • None of that is worth it. If you remember when you first met, you were a happy, energetic person, getting dressed and getting beautiful. That woman is the one he fell in love with or who attracted him.
  • Just as we have that sixth sense to know if someone is lying to us and for many other things, men, have a sixth sense to know when we stop loving ourselves, and believe me, there is nothing that distances a man more Fast on your side than your self devaluation.

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